Why do people seek therapy?
Most of us do not need therapy to deal with the usual life events. However, there are occurrences that can overwhelm our coping resources, for instance death and loss, difficulties at work place, persistent relationship issues, mood and anxiety problems, unresolved childhood issues, and anger amongst others. The psychologist provides a safe environment where the individual’s thoughts, feelings, concerns and questions can be freely expressed, explored, and processed. Once the immediate problem is resolved, some end the therapy and others continue to enrich their life and embark on a personal growth journey.
Some topics frequently discussed in therapy are obtaining an accurate understanding of yourself and what matters to you in life; self esteem; effective ways of managing negative feelings such as anger, sadness, jealousy, anxiety, shame, and loneliness; constructive strategies for dealing with relationship and communication issues; finding innovative solutions to life problems; and getting oneself out of impasses.
What is a psychotherapy session like?
Unlike the Hollywood depiction of therapy, majority of therapists today do not have their client lie on the couch. In reality it is more similar to a regular conversation in which the psychologist and the client talk about areas of concern, clarify thoughts, and explore reasons together in order to generate new solutions for problems. Depending on the issue, the client might be asked to complete certain tasks between sessions, such as reading educational material or trying a new way of dealing with problems. Even though many feel relieved after their therapy, exploration of painful life events may evoke unpleasant feelings like sadness or anger. The therapist assists and coaches the client to ensure her/his well being in the process.
The past can't be changed...so what's the point of therapy?
It is true that the past cannot be altered but your view of the past can change. In other words, instead of experiencing unpleasant feelings recalling the events of the past, you will bring closure to those memories and remembering them will not affect you to the same extent.
How do I know if I need psychotherapy?
Most people feel the need for therapy in one of these situations:
- Issues such as mood problems, anxiety, or use of alcohol or substances have been present for a while but they have recently become worse and started interfering with work, school, or relationships with family and friends.
- A change (for instance moving/relocation, divorce, illness, or someone’s death) has disrupted some aspects of life.
- There is no pressing issue requiring attention but a sense of happiness and fulfillment in life is lacking.
If it is still not clear if therapy is for you, a free consultation is offered in which we will talk in more detail to determine whether you benefit from therapy or not.
Will you prescribe medications?
The short answer to this question is no. However, it is found that sometimes the combination of psychotherapy and medication is the best way of addressing the problem. If this combination seems to be beneficial to you, we will discuss it and if your decision is to seek medications, I will offer you some referrals.
How long do I need to be in therapy?
Many individuals gain some relief or resolve their immediate problems after several sessions of therapy. At this point, they may decide to stop counseling or continue working on deeper issues. Depending on the nature of the problems, some people may require long-term therapy. We will discuss your goals, progress, and length of therapy on an ongoing basis.